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Life. With Ryen Russillo and Mark Titus

Monday, June 24, 201919 takes

A slightly different show today as we do Life advice from 4 guys that probably still don't have it figured out. Ryen Russillo and Mark Titus join the show to talk about the different phases of life in honor of Big Cat becoming a father. Advice to the dumber, younger versions of our ourselves and the Mt Rushmore of things we think were elite at.

Life Advice with Ryen Russillo and Mark Titus

With Big Cat officially entering his fatherhood era, the show takes a slight detour from the usual sports grind for a deep dive into the different phases of life. Ryen Russillo and Mark Titus joined the guys in LA at the end of Grit Week to breakdown how to navigate being a complete idiot in your 20s, the quarter-life crisis, and why you should probably stop wearing blue suits immediately.

The Childhood Years and Early Peaks

The guys started at the very beginning, offering advice to eight-year-olds that mostly centered on physical coordination and avoiding academic traps. PFT was adamant about building a dominant left hand early on.

Void
Jun 24, 2019·Life Advice
#21880
PFT CommenterPFT Commenter

Learn to do everything left-handed when you are eight years old

I would say learn to do everything left-handed. Tie your right hand behind your back for a while [when you're eight].

This is subjective advice on personal development.

Big Cat was quick to point out that school isn't always teaching the most relevant skills for the real world, specifically calling out the time wasted on penmanship.

Win
Jun 24, 2019
#16737
Big CatBig Cat

Cursive is an overrated and useless skill

Cursive is overrated. All of our eight-year-old listeners, cursive is [fucking]... You'll never need it again.

While some institutions still value it for signatures, digital communication has rendered daily cursive writing largely obsolete for most people.

Mark Titus shared the burden of being an early bloomer, explaining how he reached his physical peak before most kids had even found their lockers. Being Magic Johnson in middle school sounds great until everyone else catches up.

Win
Jun 24, 2019
#16738
Mark TitusMark Titus

I was 6'4" and dunking in a basketball game by the 8th grade

I was 6'4 in eighth grade. I dunked in a basketball game in eighth grade. You're Magic Johnson. You're playing all five positions. I was like, dude, this is the greatest thing ever. I'm going to the league.

Titus was indeed a highly-touted prospect in Indiana before playing at Ohio State.

Navigating the 20s and Career Panics

The conversation turned more serious (for PMT standards) when discussing the 20s. Ryen Russillo noted that while it's a prime time for creativity, it's also a decade spent entirely without a clue. He shared his perspective on how that clarity only arrives once you hit 30.

Win
Jun 24, 2019
#16740
Ryen RussilloRyen Russillo

When you turn 30, you will realize you were an idiot in your 20s

The safest bet in the world is that when you turn 30, you're going to go – Can't believe I thought the way I did about everything. It's not like your political beliefs change or your morals change. It's just... another third of life experience makes you realize like all the shit that I thought was so important [isn't].

This is a widely shared human experience often referred to as psychological maturation.

Big Cat reflected on the feeling of being totally bulletproof during your college years, a delusion that usually ends with a near-catastrophic injury or a realization that you aren't actually indestructible.

Void
Jun 24, 2019·Life Advice
#21881
Big CatBig Cat

You actually believe you are 100% invincible when you are 20 years old

When you're 20... you actually do think that you were 100% invincible. I think of dumb shit... stupid shit that you do when you're 20, you honestly think you will survive everything and anything that happens.

While broadly true psychologically, it's an observational claim about human nature.

They also touched on the career track, with PFT revealing his secret past as a high-earning software salesman in Austin. It turns out even a massive paycheck couldn't stop the inevitable feeling of wanting to do something more creative, or at least something that didn't involve used dog sales.

Win
Jun 24, 2019·Life Advice
#16743
PFT CommenterPFT Commenter

I made $125,000 selling custom software in Austin at age 27

I think when I was 27 I made a hundred and twenty five thousand... I was selling software, custom software in Austin, Texas.

This is a personal biographical claim that can't be externally verified but is treated as show canon.

Health, Wealth, and Wedding Photos

As the group looked toward the 30s and 40s, the advice shifted to maintenance and legacy. Big Cat issued a stern warning to anyone approaching their 30th birthday regarding their metabolism.

Push
Jun 24, 2019
#16745
Big CatBig Cat

Get in shape before age 30 or you'll be stuck in that shape forever

Getting back, getting in good shape before 30, because once you hit 30, you're in that same shape forever. I'm like a fucking walking poster child that I haven't been able to get back in shape in five years.

While it's biologically possible to change shape after 30, it is scientifically proven to be significantly harder due to metabolic and hormonal shifts.

Mark Titus countered with some tactical advice for the single men out there who might be planning a wedding. It’s all about managing expectations for the rest of your marriage by setting the bar at a specific level on your big day.

Void
Jun 24, 2019
#16746
Mark TitusMark Titus

Be fat on your wedding day so you look better for the rest of your life by comparison

Some old man gave me advice on that, too. He said, whenever you get married, make sure you're really fat because then that's the one picture that everyone compares you to the rest of your life. Because that's the one picture you put in your house. It's like you on your wedding day with your wife. And so when you're walking by, they're like, damn.

This is a social engineering strategy that is subjective but logically consistent within its own absurd framework.

Mount Rushmore of Elite Skills

To wrap things up, the four-man rotation drafted the Mount Rushmore of things they are elite at. This wasn't about athletic prowess; it was about the hyperspecific, everyday talents that make them unique. Big Cat claimed a world-class ability to find seating in any establishment, no matter the density of the crowd.

Void
Big CatBig Cat

I am the world's best at finding open tables or seats in packed bars

I think I'm number one in the world at finding open tables at packed bars or seats in general... I will always find an open table... if you come out with me, I will get us a seat. I will not stand up.

This is a verifiable claim but ultimately an opinion on his own skill.

Meanwhile, Ryen Russillo leaned into his years of experience in the industry to claim he has a sixth sense for human behavior and the authenticity of people entering his orbit.

Void
Ryen RussilloRyen Russillo

I can instantly tell if someone hates me or if they are full of shit

I think I'm great at being able to tell if someone hates me, if someone's full of shit. I want to say like FBI level lie detections... I can leave a room and go, that guy doesn't like me... I've just been around long enough... that I just think I've honed that skill.

Subjective claim about internal intuition.

Ryen Russillo also used the segment to issue some fashion warnings, specifically targeting the current uniform of every guy in New York City and the death of certain hair trends.

Win
Ryen RussilloRyen Russillo

The Odell Beckham Jr. hair trend is officially over because Zac Efron has it now

How do we feel about Odell Beckham hair? Is that going to be around two years? No way. That's over. Zac Efron has it now.

The bleached-top look indeed faded out of fashion shortly after 2019/2020.

It was a rare moment of genuine reflection from the cast, proving that even if they don't have it all figured out, they've at least learned how to look like they do.

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More Takes

Void
Jun 24, 2019
#16739
Ryen RussilloRyen Russillo

Creative people usually peak in their 20s

When I think about creative people, usually those peak years are in those 20s. You know, you're seeing things for the first time, you're experiencing them in new ways and you're reacting.

This is inherently subjective and varies across different creative fields.
Win
Jun 24, 2019
#16741
PFT CommenterPFT Commenter

You are basically the same person from age 50 to 60

When you're 60, you don't look at a picture of yourself when you're 50 and you're like, oh, I was such a shithead. You're basically the same person at that point.

Psychological studies generally show personality traits stabilize by middle age.
Void
Jun 24, 2019
#16742
PFT CommenterPFT Commenter

The guy who looks successful at 23 will be the first to have a midlife crisis

The dude that is looking like they have their shit put together when they're 23, 24 years old, that's the guy that hits the midlife crisis first. That's the guy that wants to get away from it because he grew up too fast.

This is a common sociological observation regarding early career burnout.
Win
Jun 24, 2019
#16744
Mark TitusMark Titus

Happiness must come from within rather than your paycheck

Your happiness has to come from within because if you do start comparing your success and your happiness to paychecks and you're like, I'm making less than my friend. He must be happier than me. That's not accurate. You could be happier making less.

Extensive research on happiness shows that after a certain income threshold, wealth has diminishing returns on life satisfaction.
Win
Jun 24, 2019·Life Advice
#21882
PFT CommenterPFT Commenter

Always wear a seatbelt, even if you are only driving two blocks

Just always wear a seatbelt. No matter how far you're going... I got T-boned one time, and I was maybe two blocks from my house, and I was wearing a seatbelt, and if I wasn't wearing a seatbelt, head, boom, side windshield, boom.

General safety advice is subjective but factually supported by safety data.
Open
Jun 24, 2019
#16748
Big CatBig Cat

The super-wealthy will eventually live in biodomes or on Mars

The rich people are going to be living in a biodome. That's a fact. Or on Mars. They're already working on it, dude. It's going to suck for everyone else.

Space colonization efforts are underway, but it's currently speculative whether it will serve as an escape for the wealthy.
Win
Jun 24, 2019
#16747
Mark TitusMark Titus

Never skimp on items between you and the ground

I also subscribe to the theory of not skimping on things... That are in between you and the ground. So like tires and shoes and mattresses. And anything that separates you from the ground, don't be afraid to spend a little more on it.

This is widely regarded as some of the best practical financial advice for quality of life and safety.
Loss
Ryen RussilloRyen Russillo

Blue suits will be out of style in two years

I think in two years, everybody's been looking at their closet going, why do I have seven different blue suits? So I would get out of the blue suit game right now.

Blue/navy suits remain the most common staple in men's formalwear years after this prediction.

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